Dating, slowly.
An opt-in layer for meeting new people. Verified identities, mandatory cooldowns, and a quiet but firm stance against the patterns we’ve all come to recognise as warning signs. You can leave it off and never see it.
What it actually does.
Dating Mode shows you the public moments of people in your area who are also dating-curious — and lets you reach out, with friction by design.
You see moments, not profiles
The thing you connect over is what someone has actually been thinking about lately. Their morning light, their album, their sandwich. Not a curated grid of best-side photos.
One conversation a day
The first message of a new conversation is gated to one per twenty-four hours, per person. It costs you something. It’s deliberate.
Unmatching ends contact
If someone unmatches you, you cannot DM them, see their moments via the dating layer, or learn anything about whether they unmatched. The button works.
Off by default
Dating Mode is a setting, not a tab. You opt in. You can opt out in two taps. Your main account stays the same.
Real people, only.
To enter Dating Mode you complete a short verification. We use it once, then keep a hash. The originals are deleted within seven days.
The defaults matter most.
A short list of things that are on, by default, for every Dating Mode user. You can adjust some. The hard floors you can’t.
Minimum age · 18
Hard floor, all jurisdictions. There is no “mature minor” exception, no “but my country.” If your ID says under eighteen, Dating Mode is closed.
DM cooldown · 24h
New accounts cannot DM in Dating Mode for the first day. Most off-platform predation happens in the first hours. The cooldown costs you a day. It costs them everything.
Off-platform warning
If someone suggests moving to WhatsApp, Signal, Telegram, or other platforms in the first three messages, a warning appears for you, not them. You decide what to do.
Trusted contact
You can nominate a friend or family member. With one tap you can share a date plan — when, where, with whom — and a check-in time. They get a notification if you don’t respond by then.
Location · off by default
Distance bands, not coordinates. “Five miles” instead of “Five Lincoln St, Brooklyn.” You can turn precise location on for a specific match. We do not log it.
Reports go to humans
Dating reports route to a small specialist team. No automation closes them. Median response time in internal testing: forty-two minutes. Goal at launch: under thirty.
Built to be boring,
on purpose.
We’re not trying to disrupt dating. We’re trying to make a version of it that, when you describe it to a friend, sounds reassuringly dull.
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